WHY IS NO ONE TALKING ABOUT THIS? : Rush to the finish line and self-sabotage
Someone sent me a video this afternoon about a popular influencer who seems to be the kind of person who ‘has it all’ because her videos and reels are always about how productive she has been throughout the day. They all look aesthetically pleasing and makes you wonder if that is even possible. I looked through a few reels and YouTube shorts and for a brief time period started to question myself if I am as productive as she is because it is very natural to compare yourself to someone who does or says things similar to your beliefs and ideas. But then, I also had a series of texts about “How can I be like her? Am I missing out on something? She has it all figured out. Why don’t I?”
I am not here to hate or start questioning if her videos are authentic or not. I am only telling you what transpires ‘in between’ and why you should not be comparing your life to someone whose life looks too ‘unrealistic’ (subject to opinions).
Here are a few questions that pop up on my phone repeatedly:
a. I see young people, aged 23–24 doing things that I cannot do at this age (30+). Am I lagging behind?
b. How can I do more than what I am doing right now? I am not satisfied with my progress or growth, etc.
c. Everyone junior to me is getting married. What is wrong with me?
d. Why is my life not like ABC? I cannot wrap my head around whatever I see happening in front of my eyes and start lagging behind?
e. I am done with XYZ. I don’t think I can ever aspire to get where I want to be eventually because the trauma is pulling me down.
Let me explain the idea of self- concept being important for manifesting anything at all. When you engage in consumption of content that make you feel sorry, good luck with increasing your self- concept. Self- loathing is common when you look at people like they have something you don’t have. Self- concept is driven by the Law of Becoming and that is how everything else falls into place. People mostly look at their lives like they are linear beings instead of thinking they are quantum beings. When you forget that a quantum version of you exists somewhere which has everything you desire, no amount of motivation or discipline will fix your mindset.
Time is an illusion. I teach that in my coaching and those who understand this concept, they can jump timelines and make shifts, blurring boundaries and experiencing everything they want to. So the rush to the goal is useless. You are going to get things anyway. The rush is only lack- based and it will only put you into a state of ‘desperation’ instead of ‘power’.
In a room that you are sitting in, or even a chair, everything you see has a frequency. This is why nothingness also has a frequency. Anything you want to see in your physical reality, too, has a frequency. If your imagination is not compact, how can you expect it to come up in your reality as a ‘physical’ element? Whatever you desire has a frequency and if you had it, you wouldn’t be rushing to get it. Like I have said, nothingness has a frequency, when you don’t ‘need anything’ your frequency is different than someone who ‘has nothing’. You only attract what you are. If you are being someone who doesn’t have ‘what is shown on social media’ you are going to attract more of it and eventually remain someone who still ‘desires’.
I cannot stop telling anyone this- do not compare anyone else’s timeline to yours. Everyone has had different experiences, their traumas were different, their journeys are fraught with other experiences. This attitude of self- victimising makes you into a resentful person and instead of being inspired you become a jealous, malicious and a horrible loveless human. Love and authenticity stand on the highest levels of vibration and when you are not true to yourself (you are mostly lying when you just casually say ‘Oh, what else can I do, my life is supposed to be like this because destiny blah blah..’). Hello! Even you know deep down somewhere that you do not deserve any of the unwanted stuff. So why wait and criticise? Get your a** up and work. On your mindset.
Trauma does not hit everyone in the same intensity. Some have different ways of coping, some wait to gain perspective. Some of them look for help. Just know that everyone you see on social media who is putting a life out there like they have it all put together, it is sometimes because they did not have to go through the experiences you had to. You took longer to get back on your feet because you probably tried doing it alone and most people had help and assistance. No one gets to the place they have wanted to, all alone. Everyone has had help, mental, spiritual, financial.
Do not limit yourself to being a linear being. Become a quantum being by understanding that desires are a knock of manifestation. You are a frequency yourself and you will attract everything based on the same. Defeat your ego and adopt awareness all the time. Activate your required vibration and see magic happen.
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