THE LIFE OF A ‘MAN’ IS HARD
Now that I have your attention because the title of this write- up is sure to spark a debate, possibly a ripple in many -a- brains because it is that easy for you to get triggered when someone says that there is perhaps another human who is having a worse day than yours. Your ego is so fragile that it cannot accept the fact that your pain is not the only problem in the world. And, to burst your bubble, this world will not tiptoe around you. Grow up and work on your triggers.
The reason why I am writing this article is because of this over-hustling culture I see around me. It does not have to be about work, even in personal and social relationships. I decided to break it down in two parts; the first being, how the life of a man looks and the second, how wanting to have it together at THIS very moment is making you more of a man if you are a woman.
The ideal life of a man is fraught with complex problems. As much as patriarchy tells women how to act and behave, it subdues men too because it tells men ‘how not to be’. So what happens is, women are given the training to be wives from the time they understand how life works, but most men are not trained to be husbands. They can be the richest humans in the planet, yet be pathetic with women because they have had to look at the world from the point of view of solving external problems, not internal. Hence, when personal relationships go kaput, the first thing they say is ‘let’s break up’. Even if they would run headfirst when there is a different issue where emotions are not involved or communication is not necessary. They do not heal through talking. Women do. There is a lesson here. If you don’t know what I am talking about, you can reach out for coaching: anjashi.work@gmail.com
The life of a man, as I was telling you, comprises various issues but a substantial part of their lives is characterised by aggression, adrenaline rushes and excitement when testosterone goes high. Therefore, when you catch yourself thinking why they put extra attention to their friends and activities that do not involve you particularly, you should know you are wasting your time trying to decipher that stuff. And then you go and search online why men love bitches. Don’t do that. It is not what you need to know. Pay close attention to what I am saying.
Physiologically and spiritually men and woman are different. This is coming from someone who has had 250+ clients and a regular run into married people who are the most insecure people even if they have someone by their side, sometimes they are married to the people they love but have a disappointing self- concept. The biggest spiritual robbery in the world is propagating the idea that you as a woman need to ‘fix’ a problem in the relationship/ the man you are with. There is nothing to fix here. Everything is internalisation. The misdirection in your thoughts that occur when there is some ‘trouble in paradise’ is a by- product of every belief that has been pushed down your throat by declaring that ‘time is running out’ and ‘this is urgent’ or even ‘this is the last opportunity’. It is nothing but foolishness to feed something that you don’t want to see in your reality. Don’t be a ‘man’ energetically. Anything that you do which goes against the natural course of things will hit back at you. Nature will always win. It is a losing battle you’re fighting there in.
What do you do then when there is a ‘trouble in paradise’ at all?
- Surrender- one of the most important tenets in the Law is having enough faith that whatever you want is already yours.
- Persevere- stay aligned on the path of what you want and what you don’t want.
The title of the article can be extrapolated into anything like ‘getting rid of the masculine tendency’ or ‘relaxing and creating’ or ‘keep calm and manifest’. Should that mean men cannot manifest? I am not saying that. All I am saying is, you need to tone that ‘hustle’ bug inside of you so as to allow stuff to fall in your lap. Which disgustingly rich person have you seen losing their shit on the pettiest of trivialities? This is why they are rich and know to bend their realities by tapping into their potential (energetic transactions, etc.)
Letting the materialistic things go, if relationships are put into perspective, the lesser you try, the more bliss you will experience. The constant back and forth arguments only bind you into a toxic attachment and sooner than you know, your whole conception of a relationship has gone to the dogs and you don’t even know what healthy love looks like!
Now for the men out there- your true strength lies in vulnerability. You can be a provider, problem solver and not let the harshness of the world make you into someone with raging temperament and ruining your life by being disconnected with your true self. Just because the world tells you aggression and force can get things done, doesn’t mean it’s true. There is a big difference between power and force (and this applies to women too).
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