PASOORI by Ali Sethi & Shae Gill is one’s personal ‘Amor Fati’ of Manifesting Love
The nation has been grooving to Pasoori, a track on MTV Coke Studio 14, sung by Ali Sethi and Shae Gill as leads with backing vocals by Arsalan Hassan & Haider Ali. I first heard the song on one of the Instagram stories of a reality TV star though it was a reverbed version. I quickly searched the original version and turned on the subtitles. What struck me most is the dichotomy of love and passion expressed in the track. It was composed for the sake of creative expression and up to a large extent fulfils the purpose but if you are a romantic, you shall dance and cry at the same time if you repeat the lyrics with the artists. The most interesting aspect of this track is the fact that it is neither a sad song nor a happy one but the beats make it sound like it is a party anthem, somewhat pertaining to the notion of a ‘break up party’. I digress, my apologies. Pasoori tells you the rise and fall of a lover during certain phases of his fondness or affection towards his beloved. It will teach you the greatest lessons of love, provided you stick by every word and the underlying sentiment.
For the purpose of explaining better, I am going to lay down the English Translation of the track:
Set fire to your worries; To waiting and to hurries
If your love is poison; I’ll drink it in a flurry
He said he’d come, he never did; My heart lurched and slid
Let the crow tell me why; And feast on sweet supply
I’ll hide and bide him in loving embraces
No one make me stop
My love how can you know what happens when we part
I hope you fall in love, I hope it breaks your heart
How will the willing communicate
I hope you fall in love, I hope it breaks your heart
I forget about my chains; And people’s refrains
You’re enough for me; Fulfil my destiny
He said he’d come, he never did; I couldn’t see, the way was hidden
My heart gives solace; To wishes unfulfilled
I dote on you, I call out your name
Let’s have it out, for shame!
My love, don’t let this distance reign; My love what of this distance…
My love, don’t let this distance reign; Don’t let these lovers be in pain
Come let’s go away; Where all the lovers meet
You’re the one, it’s you I need; Give me life, give me love, take me in your arms
Amor Fati may be explained in a simple manner as “love of one’s fate”.
I found this interesting piece a few days back and before we move on to understanding Pasoori’s motive, you should read the excerpt below:
Viktor Frankl was a Jewish psychotherapist who lived during World War 2. During the war he was sent to various concentration camps, including Auschwitz.
Frankl survived the horrors of that was and wrote a book called Man’s Search For Meaning (which I recommend you read). He had a very simple philosophy that he credited for helping him survive the hardship and adversity of the Nazi concentration camps:
“You cannot control what happens to you in life, but you can always control what you will feel and do about what happens to you.”
That is how we use concepts of philosophy. Not to exert more control over the world, but to take responsibility for how we view it and respond to it. Making a conscious decision to change our perceptions for the better.
With Amor Fati, this means changing how we perceive what has happened to us, or is happening to us. Have we struggled? Good. What opportunity did that provide us to grow? Have we experienced loss? How did that teach us to appreciate what we have and not take things for granted?
…..The author Robert Greene writes:
“Through Nietzsche, I discovered amor fati. I just fell in love with the concept because the power that you can have in life of accepting your fate is so immense that it’s almost hard to fathom. You feel that everything happens for a purpose, and that it is up to you to make this purpose something positive and active.”
Coming back to Pasoori’s relevance while we are attempting to manifest love in our lives, it is not an uncommon phenomenon to find people losing patience and throwing a fit of rage when love is not reciprocated or expressed in the way imagined. The track starts with the idea of worries and tension being an inevitable aspect of love. If you are even a little fluent in Punjabi, you will understand that the song is partially inclined towards sentiments of loss and resentment. It goes on to express the dilemmas of a lover because there is faith that tells one everything will eventually sort out by itself but then there is a catch- being a lover also means that love needs to be in ‘destiny’. As much as love takes energy and time, it also takes courage to stand unmoved during an adversity. Whether it is distance or people around, nothing should stop a lover from breaking free from the shackles of what binds him to achieve the true bliss of deep, maddening and selfless love.
If you look at the general attitude of humans when they experience romance, there is a back thought at all times (when you do not know conscious creation, of course), “What if this does not work out? What if they find someone better?” Pasoori teaches you exactly how to stick by your heart no matter how tough situations may be … You’re the one, it’s you I need; Give me life, give me love, take me in your arms.
It is astonishing how something so beautiful can also make your eyes water because each of us, when in love, have had to deal with a ‘pasoori’ (translation: conflict) because we want to love but are wary of the experiences that love will bring with itself. Nevertheless, only a true lover understands the victories and pitfalls when it comes to the matters of the heart. You only discover more of yourself and the levels of comfort you are willing to push when you want someone in your life and for eternity. I feel that is what differentiates the kind of love we have for everyone else and the ‘unique’ love we feel for the special someone who we wish to spend an entire lifetime with.
When you are manifesting a satisfying love life or rather a healthy one devoid of all toxicity (please remember, if you do not understand the love language of your partner, no matter how caring or loving you are, you comprise the toxicity in the connection too), be open to the bad times as well. Sometimes we feel completely random ‘things’ because of an issue we need to work on and it is unfair when we want that ‘special someone’ to reassure us all the time. If your cup is empty, you will always want to take from their cup and ruin the bond in the process. There needs no rush in love. Love is not meant to materialize in a rush. You grow in love, experiencing both the good and bad times.
Pasoori stands out an excellent example of how love sometimes has to tread on the path of the unknown. The conflict is not about if the lover should or should not love you back, it is about if you will be able to outdo yourself in that emotion because if you want an extraordinary kind of love, you have to be absolutely exemplary in love as well. We attract what we are, always remind yourself of that.