LOVE v.2025
I am writing this on the 12th day of February. As it the world goes in a frenzy as the first of the “love” month kicks in, I would like to share a few things I have learned within this particular emotional bandwidth. Before you start wondering if this is going to be a sob affair, it may be, but happy tears, I promise you.
When I was younger, probably just early on in adulthood, I always thought love has to be expressed time and again verbally so that one understands what you truly feel. By the turn of a decade, I realised how unaware I had been. If expressing through words meant everything, none of us would be having affection towards our pets.
In 2020, when the only intention I had turned into a business (“It doesn’t matter if I ever find love, I want to ensure there must never be anyone who gives up on love”) it created this shift in my overall consciousness because I could let go. I became infinite. I never thought I had less. It did not bother me if people took advantage of my feelings because it reminded me that I WAS SOMETHING or I HAD SOMETHING for people to take. If I had NOTHING, there would be nothing to take. When I tell people that they don’t know how my meltdowns are, they actually have ZERO idea. Because I had always been the person who was there for everyone and I never thought I could rely on anyone the same way someone would count on me. I never had anybody because I continued to be the person people had. And this is why when people say the world is full of bad or evil people, I will argue with a wall even to prove them wrong because I am an example of a good person. I will continue to be a good person even if someone is not the same because I love myself enough to hold my existence in that regard. Previously, I had a diametrically opposite idea and suffered a lot. You will always suffer if you think what you are doing out of love is never going to be appreciated. But you doing it has got nothing to do with the appreciation or gestures in return. You are doing it because you ARE what you do, act, think and perceive.
People will come and go, because that is how life is. Holding onto them will only create tension because anything that is rigid can be broken with force. Instead of “holding”, let it flow. That is Power. When you think too much of the future, you are sabotaging everything you have NOW. When people say “Oh! We have to think where this relationship is going!” you should stop doing it. Live life like you are God’s favourite child. He knows when to give you what you want. Your obsession with a “label” is not only making you question your credibility but it is also speaking volumes about how you see yourself when you are in love with someone. Instead of asking “where is this going?” sit with yourself and ask, “do I think of myself as someone dispensable?” What you think is what you become. Don’t chase labels, believe in your unique essence irrespective.
You will have to shed a bucketload of tears when you encounter true love, I tell everyone. This is not because you deserve the hurt, but your ego has to die a thousand times before your heart can expand. Your tendency to protect it is causing you to subconsciously address a situation that has the “potential” to inflict damage. Why would you do that? You can cry because you feel. That is what keeps you alive. A dead man has no feelings. You feeling something indicates you are alive and there is one more day when a miracle can happen.
Nobody will love you the way you can love yourself. You stay in your body 24/7 for 365–6 days. If you don’t know to love yourself, the world will put you in circumstances where you will have no choice than to stand up for yourself. A drowning man will only think of air, never about who he has to get even with or if he is still awaiting an answer. If I had to give you an option of taking a million dollars and not waking up the next day, you will deny the money. Remember that your desire to live is only a by product of your subconscious mind “expecting” more experiences. You only go crazy when you close your mind’s eye.
Love demands sacrifice. Always. This sacrifice is not about someone else, it is about you. You have to sacrifice the awful ways you think of your life when the “love” you want is not quite there. Can you tell me for sure that if I were to give you that same love, you will never screw it up? You can’t guarantee that. You don’t even know if you might break down seeing a person with no legs or arms. Don’t make claims about how good of a lover you are. Nobody is, trust me. Unless we have given ourselves the same love in the absence of the one we want, it is futile. This love exists because you exist. Making it into your God is only downplaying your own existence and purpose in this lifetime.
And the moment has arrived,
If you truly want to be loved by someone, that journey will change you first. It is not because you are insufficient, but you actually have potential to become better than what you are RIGHT NOW.
When you become the version you were always meant to be, God gets happy because you are no less than magic. Everyone will start believing in it because it first looked impossible perhaps. But you made a difference and threw everyone’s conceptions out of the picture. Imagine having that level of power. It is not a fluke that people say love is magic. It actually is. Imagine living life ordinarily and then you meet someone who makes your life extraordinary. That extraordinariness reaches its maximum when you do outdo yourself. Who would have thought you could do that?
I could never speak a sentence without stammering, I talk to people on calls everyday. I was made fun of my silliness in love, I teach people how to become a better lover everyday. I was told several times that there is no use in being a person with a good heart because people are going to break it. Because I have a good heart, nobody, absolutely nobody can taint me as someone who cannot be trusted. It is the highest form of purpose one could have. That good heart is what people are looking for. I was / am the answer to someone’s prayer, how does it matter if someone had to take advantage and leave? No matter what, even if they are no more a part of my life, I still left them with love.
All of that because I have loved well enough!
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